16th Sunday in Ordinary Time – C
July 20, 2025
Our Lady of Grace Parish, Parkton 8:30am
Dinner with Friends
So, Jesus is visiting with some friends: Martha and Mary.
Mary is sitting and listening to Jesus. We are not told what they are talking about, but Mary is interested and taking in Jesus’ words.
Martha is busy putting dinner together and she eventually feels resentful of her sister Mary. She asks Jesus to tell Mary to get up and help her.
And, as we know, Jesus doesn’t do that. Instead, he says: “Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things.
“There is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part and it will not be taken from her.”
Well, the passage just ends there, but I have to think that Martha had some response. Maybe like: “Okay, Jesus, how about if you get up and fix this plate with humus and chips.
“Oh, and then put the rolls in the oven and keep a watch on them. And while you’re doing that, clean out this pan that I cooked the lamb in.”
Martha may have resented Jesus saying that “Mary has chosen the better part.” Wasn’t getting the food ready just as important or even more important than what Mary was doing?
I’m thinking that many of us would identify with Martha. We might not feel so good about Jesus’ response.
So maybe the question to ask is this: what does Jesus mean by “the better part”? I have two ideas: one – what it definitely does not mean – and two – what I think it does mean.
Definitely Not Prayer Above Action
First, some commentators interpret Mary as an image or figure of prayer.
She is sitting, conversing with Jesus, and taking in his wisdom. These commentators say that “the better part” means that prayer is more important than our work or activity.
Many other Scripture commentators – and here is where I stand on the matter – many others say that this is not the case. “The better part” definitely does not mean that prayer is better or more important than work or activity.
Why do they say this? Because this passage comes right after what we heard last week in the gospel – the parable of the Good Samaritan. There Jesus was lifting up compassion for others who are hurting as being most important in our following of him.
So, it just doesn’t make sense to think that here, today, Jesus is teaching that prayer is more important than work or activity. This is not what he means when he says that “Mary has chosen the better part.”
Definitely Awareness
What then does Jesus mean?
A number of good Scripture commentators hold that “the better part” means awareness. It means that we are with the Lord, aware of the Lord whether we are praying or working.
Look at it this way. Jesus is a guest in the home of his friends.
Mary is really with Jesus, keeping him as her focus and aware of what he is saying. On the other hand, Martha gets so deeply involved in the details of the meal that she loses the focus.
She’s not really aware of Jesus. The meal has become more important than her friend and guest.
So, “the better part” means keeping our focus and awareness of Jesus. It means doing this no matter what we are doing.
Our Awareness
So, for example: we are honest with our boss at work in filling out our timesheet – because of Jesus.
We are truthful with our parents about whether we did our homework – because of Jesus. We don’t join the crowd in bullying a classmate – because of Jesus.
We do grocery shopping and get meals together for our family – because of Jesus. We feel compassion for those who are homeless or impoverished – because of Jesus.
This, I recommend, is “the better part.” Living our lives with some awareness of Jesus – no matter what we are doing – that’s what Jesus is reminding Martha and us to do today.